For a long time, many women — myself included — learned to over-explain. We repeat ourselves, give extra examples, add more details, and keep circling back to the same point because somewhere along the way, we were conditioned to believe that if we don’t say it enough, we won’t be heard.
That is old programming.
When we feel unseen, unheard, or dismissed, it can feel safer to keep talking until the message lands. But more words do not always create more clarity. Sometimes they create more confusion. Sometimes they hide the real message.
The truth is, the brain is already doing a lot of filtering. In fact, the science of cognitive bias reminds us that we do not take in everything equally; our minds simplify, filter, delete and distort information so we can process the world at a speed that works for us. That means clarity matters. The goal is not to say everything — the goal is to say what matters most. The University of Texas Permian Basin’s article on cognitive bias explains how these mental shortcuts shape daily life.
Instead of over-explaining, we can practice trust:
- Trust that our words are enough,
- Trust that the right people will understand,
- Trust that we do not need to prove every point to be valid.
Instead of over-explaining, we can clear the pattern:
One way I have approached releasing unwanted patterns is through what I call the All Clear Protocol — a path I was downloaded with divinely for removing what no longer serves. It is a way to clear patterns for yourself in the subconscious mind.
There are many ways to release patterns; this is one. I also asked God for a new template — a blueprint that I would not create from my own mind, but receive through divine guidance — (I “let go and let God” decide what that blueprint should look like). This new template provides the space to support my delivering HIS messages with HIS divine guidance. This template allows me to deliver messages with more clarity, more trust, and less noise.
That shift matters. Because when we let go of the need to force understanding, we make room for something cleaner, truer, and more effective.
When I wrote the first draft of my book, I saw the same pattern in myself. When I saw it in writing, I realized this was a pattern I had when I spoke too. I had over-explained, repeated ideas, and piled on examples. But once I saw it, I could not unsee it. I had to rewrite with more intention. Less noise. More truth.
That is the work: unlearning the need to perform for understanding, releasing the fear behind the extra words, and getting to the point — so the point can stand on its own.
Because when we speak with clarity, we make room to be heard.
Rev. Jodi L. Suson, 🧠 Brain and Body Whisperer, Corporate Wellness Executive | Neuroscience-Based Mental Health & Performance | Designing Scalable & Measurable Employee Wellbeing Programs | Speaker | Author| Motivational Speaker | Podcast Host | Self-Cell Care
