HEALTHY BOUNDARIES
IT IS NOT OUR RIGHT TO INSERT OURSELVES INTO OTHER PEOPLES LIVES AND TELL THEM HOW TO “BE”, HOW TO “DO”, WHAT TO “BE”, WHAT TO “DO”.
IF SOMEONE WANTS AN OPINION, THEY WILL ASK FOR IT. IF YOU WANT TO SHARE AN OPINION, ASK FIRST, IT MAY NOT BE WELCOME.
ASSUMPTIONS ARE DANGEROUS – THEY LEAD TO PUSHING YOUR AGENDA ONTO SOME UNSUSPECTING SOUL
ASSUMPTIONS ARE DANGEROUS – THEY LEAD TO YOU INSERTING YOUR THOUGHT OF HOW THAT PERSON SHOULD “BE” AT THAT MOMENT IN TIME.
ASK YOURSELF…WHERE WAS I PROGRAMMED TO BELIEVE THAT I HAVE THE RIGHT TO CHANGE SOME OTHER ADULTS’ ENVIRONMENT?
ASK YOURSELF…WHERE WAS I PROGRAMMED TO BELIEVE THAT I HAVE THE RIGHT TO CHANGE SOME OTHER ADULTS’ OPINION?
ASK YOURSELF…WHERE WAS I PROGRAMMED TO BELIEVE THAT I CAN CONTINUE TO CROSS BOUNDARIES WITH ANYONE AND KEEP THAT PERSON IN MY LIFE.
ASK YOURSELF…WHERE WAS I PROGRAMMED TO BELIEVE THAT I CAN DECIDE WHAT IS GOOD FOR THE PERSON NEXT TO ME.
ASK YOURSELF…WHY AM I AFRAID TO LOOK AT MYSELF FIRST?
ASK YOURSELF…WHY AM I AFRAID TO DO THE SHADOW WORK AND CHANGE MYSELF FIRST?
ASK YOURSELF…WHY DO I CONTINUE TO TRY TO CHANGE THE PEOPLE AROUND ME AND EXPECT A DIFFERENT RESULT?
ASK YOURSELF…WHY CAN’T I RESPECT DIFFERENCES AMONG OTHERS AND LIVE TOGETHER IN HARMONY?
ASK YOURSELF…WHO PROGRAMMED ME TO RETALIATE WHEN I AM GIVEN FEEDBACK?
ASK YOURSELF…WHO PROGRAMMED ME TO JUDGE OTHERS…WHEN I DO NOT WALK IN THEIR SHOES?
ASK YOURSELF…WHY DO I FEEL COMPELLED TO MODIFY AN ADULT’S SPACE WHEN THEY ARE CLEARLY NOT SUFFERING AND THEY ARE HAVING JOY?
ASK YOURSELF…WHO PROGRAMMED YOU TO BELIEVE THAT YOU HAVE THE RIGHT TO CHANGE SOMEONE ELSE TO FIT WHAT YOU THINK THAT THEY SHOULD BE?
ASK YOURSELF…WHERE WAS I PROGRAMMED TO BELIEVE THAT I KNOW BETTER FOR SOMEONE ELSE THEN THEY KNOW FOR THEMSELVES?
PEACE STARTS FROM WITHIN.
HARMONY STARTS FROM WITHIN.
IF YOU DON’T HAVE PEACE, CREATE WHAT YOU NEED TO ATTRACT AND MAINTAIN INNER PEACE.
PEACE STARTS WITH YOU.
LAW OF ATTRACTION: LIKE ATTRACTS LIKE.
IF YOU WANT LESS JUDGEMENT – JUDGE LESS
IF YOU WANT LESS ASSUMPTIONS – ASSUME LESS
IF YOU WANT LESS CONTROLLING PEOPLE – STOP PUSHING YOUR AGENDA ON OTHERS
IF YOU WANT MORE LOVE – START WITH HEART
FINALLY…
STOP MAKING EXCUSES FOR YOUR LIFE.
STOP BLAMING OTHERS FOR YOUR CURRENT SITUATION
YOU CONTROL YOU
WHEN YOU FOCUS ON YOU……
YOU WORRY LESS ABOUT WHAT OTHERS ARE DOING AND RISE TO THE TOP OF THE MOUNTAIN.
– JODI L. SUSON-CALHOUN
